"Terms of Endearment" - those distinctive words or phrases
we use to let folks know they are special to us. I came across
an article by a new father who noted the phenomenon: he writes,(1)
I recently ran through the list of nicknames Alene and
I have called Bridgette since she was born. I was
amazed. In only 22 weeks, we have referred to her,
alternately, as: Bridgette, Bridge, Bridgey, Bridgelet,
Bridgester, Bridgemeister, Bridgeman, Bridgette-the-Fidgettey-Midget, Bridgettes-of-Madison-County, Pooh,
Poop, Poopy, Pumpkin, Pumpkin Seed, Pumpkin Pooch,
Peanut, Muffin, Noodle, Doodle, Doodle-Doo, Dew Drop,
Sweet Pea, Pea Pod, Boopie, Bubbles, Bundles, and
Stinky the Bald-Headed Girl. (That last one was
Bridgette's name her first week only. I fully expect
her to take me to court over it one day.)
In the end, I believe my clearly exhaustive repertoire
of aliases for my daughter comes from my desire to dote
and fawn and fuss over her that much more. And the
more syllables the better (even though, in the end, a
Bridgette by any other name still smells like Johnson's
Baby Powder).
True enough, a rose by any other name still smells as sweet,
but we also know how true it is that WHAT we are called makes a
difference. As we grow, if we are called "smart," it makes a
difference; if we are called "stupid," it makes a difference.
What our FAMILY is called is also important. Several years
ago, at my step-father's funeral, the family was gathered - Mom,
three of my four sisters, my brother Joel. Long-time family
friends had made the trip. It was a time to renew old
acquaintances, to sustain each other in a difficult moment, to
share stories. Joel and I were talking with one of those long-time acquaintances who was remembering a conversation he had had
with his own brother some years ago. This brother - Tom - was a
high-powered attorney in Baltimore who, at that moment, was
involved in an important real estate closing. Joel, who happens
to be one of Baltimore's most respected land surveyors, had also
been called in on the project even though he was relatively young
at the time. As the introductions proceeded, Tom was introduced
to Joel, then, with a quizzical look, asked him, "And who is
MILTON Leininger."
Joel looked startled for a moment, then responded. "He is
my father."
Tom turned away quickly to his partners and said, "He'll be
fine." Tom had known our Dad, and just because of that family
relationship, the NAME - what he was called - he had every
confidence in Joel.
Isaiah understood the importance of the name: "But now, this
is what the LORD says -- he who created you, O Jacob, he who
formed you, O Israel: "Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have
summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the
waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze."(2)
What a wonderful word of divine protection! And why? No other
reason than "I HAVE SUMMONED YOU BY NAME, YOU ARE MINE!"
As counterpoint to Isaiah, our gospel lesson carries us to
the waters of the Jordan and the story of Jesus' baptism.
Theologians will always wrestle with why Jesus did that (just as
John himself wondered(3)), but most say this was the Lord's visible
demonstration that he really was WITH us - with us in our fears,
with us in our foolishness, with us in our failures, with us all
the way down into the mud of the Jordan.
In Charleton Heston's autobiography, In the Arena,(4)
the
actor describes making The Greatest Story Ever Told in November
of 1963. Heston appeared as John the Baptist. Director George
Stevens had chosen to film the baptism in Glen Canyon, Arizona,
on the Colorado River. Heston points out that in November the
water temperature was in the forties. It made for some
interesting reactions as the hundreds of extras were immersed,
one by one, in the cold Colorado. "As they came up, gasping and
wild-eyed, the cameras conveyed pure, heartfelt epiphany."
It took several days to shoot the scene. Heston remarks
that they "baptized" around sixty a day. He suspects the real
Baptist did better. So, after several days of standing in cold
water dressed in a bearskin, he got to pretend to baptize Jesus.
As he was waiting in the water for the shot, he warmed his hands
on a cup of coffee with his head down. This might have caused
Stevens some concern, for he called out, "How ya doin', Chuck?"
Heston says he answered, "I'm okay, George. But I'll tell
you this, if the Jordan had been as cold as the Colorado,
Christianity never would have gotten off the ground."
The climax of the scene in scripture is wonderful. The
dove, the voice. "You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well
pleased." Pleased at what? Jesus had not done any miracles at
this point, he had not preached or taught or healed. He had not
accomplished any of those things we identify with his ministry.
And yet God says, "You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am
well pleased." Interesting, is it not, that God praises Jesus
before he does great things. We often reverse that order,
reserving praise and approval until one has earned it...EXCEPT
for our children. Loving parents start with those words of
affirmation and affection right from the beginning. "My Son,
whom I love."
The fact that, in his baptism, Jesus heard God's "term of
endearment," provides something important for us. Baptism can be
seen as a first word of God's love and acceptance for you and me.
When we remember and celebrate our own baptism, we recall that
we, too, have been called God's child.
Fred Craddock, that wonderful teacher of preachers, tells
the story of vacationing in the Smokey Mountains area of
Tennessee. He and his wife had found a lovely restaurant at a
place called the Black Bear Inn. Craddock writes:
We were seated there looking out at the mountains
when this old man, with shocking white hair, a Carl
Sandburg-looking person came over and spoke to us. He
said, "You're on vacation?"
We said, "Yes," and he just kept right on talking.
"What do you do," he asked. Well, I was thinking,
Craddock notes, that it was none of his business, but I
let out that I was a minister. Then he said, "Oh, a
minister, well I've got a story for you." He pulled
out a chair and sat down.
"Won't you have a seat," Craddock added. (He found
out later that the man was eighty years old and a former
governor of Tennessee.)
He said, "I was born back here in these mountains
and when I was growing up I attend Laurel Springs
Church. My mother was not married and as you might
expect in those days, I was embarrassed about that --
at school I would hide in the weeds by a nearby river
and eat my lunch alone because the other children were
very cruel. And when I went to town with my courageous
mother I would see the way people looked at me trying
to guess who my daddy was.
"The preacher fascinated me, but at the same time
he scared me. He had a long beard, a rough-hewn face,
a deep voice, but I sure liked to hear him preach. But
I didn't think I was welcome at church so I would go
just for the sermon. And as soon as the sermon was
over, I would rush out so nobody would say, 'What's a
boy like you doing here in church.'
"One day though," the old man continued, "I was
trying to get out but some people had already got in
the aisle so I had to remain. I was waiting, getting
in a cold sweat, when all of a sudden I felt a hand on
my shoulder, and I looked out of the corner of my eye
and realized it was the face of the preacher. And I
was scared to death.
"The preacher looked at me. He didn't say a word,
he just looked at me, and then he said, 'Well boy,
you're a child of...' and he paused, and I knew he was
going to try to guess not who my mother was but who my
father was."
"The preacher said, 'You're a child of...um. Why,
you're a child of God! I see a striking resemblance,
boy!' He swatted me on the bottom and said, 'Go, claim
your inheritance.'"
And then the old man who was telling the story said to Fred
Craddock, "I was born on that day!"
"You are my Son, whom I love." Terms of endearment. In
baptism we find our affirmation. Remember that as we recall our
own baptisms in a moment. That is where we find strength for the
struggle, courage for the crises, and hope for the future. We
are part of God's family, each of us God's own child, never
alone, and nothing can separate us from that love of God in
Christ Jesus all the days of our lives.
Amen!
1. Bruce Kluger, "It's a Girl - Now What?", via Internet, http://www.homearts.com/
depts/relat/girlb6.htm
2. Isaiah 43:1-2
3. Matthew 3:14
4. In the Arena : An Autobiography, New York : Simon & Schuster, 1995
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